This year has been a truly amazing year for Kathy and I, and I hope it has been as wonderful for you. We’ve hosted several sold-out retreats many of you have attended; released the new book, The Abundance Vibration which many of you are reading; recently launched a new membership site Master Moment Makers to serve you on your expanding journey; and we’re continuing to bring more events your way to remind you of your oneness, perfection and power… including the three listed below!
I hope you can join us for as many as you are able!
Join us for the Master Moment Makers Free Webinar, “Intuitive Abilities, Made Easy.”
See how you can further develop your intuitive abilities without being intimidated or overwhelmed and watch John and Arlene access information and receive guidance while giving real time readings!
Our goal is to simply show you the abilities you already have and how to practice remembering how to use them!
We’re excited to announce the first Big Glow Community New Year’s Retreat: Channel Your Highest Genius – Florida from Dec 29, 2017 – Jan 2, 2018 outside sunny Gainesville Florida, on a 108 Acre Wildlife Refuge, with miles of hiking trails, we will bring in New Year’s as a community, and a family, with Brian Piegrossi, Kathy & I plus a New Year’s Eve visit with Michael Singer, author of “The Untethered Soul” and the “Temple of the Universe,” including Kirtan and a Huge bonfire and more. Check out the registration page here for full details!
John Stringer, Christie Lenee & HUDOST – live @ Healium on NOV 9th
Join us at Healium for an unforgettable night of music as John, Christie Lenee & Hudost hit the stage to share inspiring music. If you haven’t heard Christie Lenee or HUDOST yet, check them out here!
Today is another day to give of yourself fully, to be in the moment and bring in as much love as you can. to be a light to those in need. To use your gifts to bring peace, joy and love to all those around you. You presence, your kindness and the grace of the divine will assist you in letting your light shine.
It’s been a while since I’ve updated you on what’s going on with me so in this video, I let you know about what my biggest focus has been recently. I also share with you what I’ve seen as the biggest key to being who you are here to be: ALIGNMENT. Check out the video to see what I’m talking about (NOTE: The video ends abruptly, but I captured everything that needed to be captured).
I also invite you to join my online virtual community at here so I can keep you posted on my new tour and more!
For those of us who are open to it, I have to go there… (close your eyes, Mom… lol). I’m going to talk about SEX for a second. I don’t in the video, but I will on my blog here now. For those of us who believe you are not supposed to read or write about sex, go ahead and exit now. You were warned! lol
Ever noticed how fulfilled you feel after SEX? Don’t worry, the divine / God / Source gave us sex and we are certainly blessed to have it,.. and it’s OK to acknowledge it. It’s blissful. But why is it so taboo to even talk about in public? I even had second thoughts about writing about it and had to “check in” to make sure it was fine. Why is that? Because it’s what we’ve been conditioned to believe about it. But that’s not the point I’m leading up to.
The point I’m getting at is that like sex, following our bliss leads to fulfilling psychological, mental, emotional, chemical states. You FEEL it because you are fulfilled. You are fulfilled because you are fulfilling your heart’s desires. Those desires come from the divine. I’m not referring to desires that harm (for those of you thinking of desires you believe will harm you or others). I’m talking about desires that you know are from the divine … and if you don’t know, then ask the divine.
When you follow your bliss, you are full-filled. You have an abundance that can uplift others… by your state of being. That’s why people feel at peace or blessed by your vibe and in your presence.
You are the light of the world! Follow your bliss and BE that!
I started reading a classic book called “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie years ago but I never “got it” at the time, so I stopped before finishing. I picked it up a gain this year and I was shocked to learn that I’d been so “wrong” about myself and human nature – and how best to love people in simple ways. See, I’d spent the past 3 years (and even longer) doing the opposite of some of the key best practices this book shared b/c I thought the opposite was best… and in fact, it was best for me to be that way, but not for the reasons I thought.
For as long as I can recall, I prided myself in being honest and tried to be as efficient and effective as possible plus I’d help others improve by calling them to the same standard. The problem is the last half of that sentence. For me, calling others to the same standard meant showing them what they were doing wrong and how to correct it. So, yes…. I was that guy in my band, at work, at home, wherever – always willing to show someone how to improve by “constructively criticizing” them… showing them what they were doing wrong as directly as I could and explaining how to fix it. Know anyone like that? Do you enjoy spending time with them? lol I’m actually grateful I was that person in the past, and I’ll share why.
First, what I learned after so many years of acting this way was that although my heart was in the right place, my methods often turned people off. Granted, I honestly had the best of intentions and the reason I’m grateful I carried on this way is because it taught me first-hand the results of this sort of behavior. No matter how insightful and on point my constructive criticism may have been, it rarely yielded the what I’d hoped for: to see people change. In fact, people seemed to view me as difficult to work with and some even seemed to avoid me. Go figure. lol
So here are just two of the many key things I’ve learned from “How to win friend and influence people” that helped me change the way I am around those I care about. I hope you enjoy:
1. “Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.” People don’t like it and it often receives the opposite response of what you’d hope for.
The author, Dale Carnegie, shares the following nugget of wisdom:
“Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.”
Out of the various examples Carnegie gives to show how demoralizing criticism can be, my favorite quote follows:
“B. F. Skinner, the world-famous psychologist, proved through his experiments that an animal rewarded for good behavior will learn much more rapidly and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behavior. Later studies have shown that the same applies to humans. By criticizing, we do not make lasting
changes and often incur resentment.”
So, what do you do instead? Carnegie offers what I consider a very loving alternative, explaining “…instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. ‘To know all is to forgive all.’ ” Now that’s love!
This is just the starting point and the rest of the book builds from here to share 8 more principles, the second of which I share below.
2. “Give honest and sincere appreciation.” Make giving appreciation and gratitude a new way of life.
Carnegie points out that Charles Schwab, John D Rockefeller and many other extremely successful people shared the same successful trait where they influenced people though sincere encouragement and praise. Carnegie quotes Schwab in the following section of the book:
“I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among my people,” said Schwab, “the greatest asset I possess, and the way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement… There is nothing else that so kills the ambitions of a person as criticisms from superiors. I never criticize any-one. I believe in giving a person incentive to work. So I am anxious to praise but loath to find fault. If I like anything, I am hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise. “
Of course, understanding human nature as well as he did, Carnegie goes on to point out that he’s not suggestion flattery. Flattery and appreciation are not the same:
“The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere. One comes from the heart out; the other from the teeth out. One is unselfish; the other selfish. One is universally admired; the other universally condemned.”
What I found so amazing is that by changing my approach and using several other principles in the book, I could sincerely encourage, praise and inspire people, which truly turned around some of the relationships I’d unintentionally “soiled” at work.
Learning how “wrong” I’d been also gave me a chance to see first-hand the value of these principles and I also use them with my family to break the old habits of criticism and instead, encourage, appreciate and inspire.
I view these as simply new ways (at least new for me lol) to be love to those around me and hope you find them as useful as I did. You can get a free PDF copy of “How To Win Friends and Influence People” online here and learn all 9 principles.
Thank you life for the many ways to love and be love. Thank you for the new ways to show those I am around day-to-day kindness, appreciation and compassion. Let the learning continue!!!!
My wife and I were delighted to contribute to a new book called “Love and Oneness,” part of the best-selling Adventures In Manifesting series from Älska (elsh~ka) Publishing. The book is coming out a little later this year and we’ll release pre-sale details very soon. Stay tuned…